Friday, 7 March 2014

Discover The Art Of Flirting

By Brett Vaughan


Flirting is a crucial skill that some people acquire it naturally while others have to practice the art so as to master the skill. In the art of flirting, people have to go past their fear of approaching stranger and overcome the perception that strangers are dangerous. In fact, the anonymity of strangers should be seen as advantage since one has no information about the other.

For those that have a hard time approaching other people, and lack the confidence to do so need practice which is better done by approaching random stranger and learning how to initiate a conversation. This way, one has nothing to lose if they make a fool out of themselves since they probably never meet these people again which build their confidence before they meet the right person.

Basically, the more one practices this art the more they get comfortable in doing it as one learns what is good for them and how to take a blow of their ego especially when rejected. Once one has perfected doing it with strangers it is usually time to move to semi-stranger and so on as one gets better at it. With time, one gathers the confident to approach the person that has been making your pulse speed up.

In this game there are those that may seem intimidating which bring the fear of approaching them; in this case, one should assume that their target is waiting for them to go ahead which is probably the case most of the times. For those that have gone through the exchanging numbers part and maybe even saliva, it usually is easier as they have more confidence to withstand rejection.

Normally, flirting begins with the eyes, then to the mouth and some coyness or shyness especially for women. This tends to be different for men and women as men are only expected to portray boldness and not shyness which is seen as attractive when done by women. With time, women have grown confident enough to be the once doing the approaching and not waiting for the men to do it.

There usually is no right place for this as it can be done anywhere, all one needs to know is be able to take hints and read signals. For instance, a blink, a smile, or shyness may be a signal hinting to you that someone want you to approach them. However, being over flirtatious may be off-putting as one may seem easy and creepy especially if it is a lady does it.

This art takes a cycle whereby one starts by hinting their target with eye gestures, then a smile accompanied with body language which should be an indication that it is the right time to go t the target. In addition to this, being able to ignite a conversation is critical as having a conversation that is flowing makes the time enjoyable giving room to make an advance to break the touch barrier.

For a successful flirting moment, there are certain rules that come in handy making it interesting and fun. For people who want to secure a second date it is important to be careful and ensure that one leaves when the date is going very well. This way, one leaves a suspense that lets the other person want to meet again and finish what was started.




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