Tuesday, 8 October 2013

Teen Age Girl's Self-Esteem - What Causes Its Nosedive?

By Margaret R. Ferguson


Though women made considerable gains in their education as well as service in their equal rights warfare, they're as of yet not doing good when it comes to self-esteem warfare. Girls' self-esteem usually peaks as they turn 9. Unfortunately, this takes a steep nosedive. Let's take a good look at the reason the self-esteem of girls plummets and the things that you need to do for preventing it.What are the things that you should know regarding girls' self-esteem? Self-esteem happens to be correlated with how people feel about their own selves. It isn't only about how people look but also how people feel about the way they look. Likewise, it isn't only about how thriving or smart the others believe or say they are.
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Whatever the cause, and what ever the situation you find your self in, you can turn your self-esteem around. Just like any muscle in the body, the right coaching plan will strengthen your self love, esteem and respect in no time.My top 7 tips to Developing solid self esteem are,Make a note of all the negative messages you have about yourself, your body, your worth, potential and limitations - and determine where they came from. Keep in mind that some messages may have been simply absorbed on an unconscious level i.e. we may have picked up self esteem patterns from our mothers or other female in the home.Now go burn that list and never look back.Create a new list - full of all your best traits, experiences, abilities, and any compliments you've received.

Health risks are coupled with most girls' dip in their self-esteem because of dangerous eating habits, despair, as well as unwanted pregnancy.Girls who are 10 or 12 are occasionally confronted with various "teen" issues like dating or sex, at an alarmingly earlier age. Almost 73 percent of the 8 to 12-year old girls dress more like thriving teens and even talk much like teens.When or why do girls' self-esteem dip?When the pre-teen years start, girls experience a total shift in their focus; and their bodies turn into some sort of all consuming passion-machine, which is much like a meter of self-worth.Self-esteem turns very closely tied to many physical attributes that most girls feel they're unable to gauge in respect of their society standards.Between 5th or 9th grade, most gifted girls perceive that smarts are not really sexy, and keep hiding their accomplishments.

And most teen girls are faced with increasing number of "stressors" in their lives, particularly in their interpersonal relationships. Unfortunately, they react more intensely than typical boys, which throw them towards depressions.If you are like every parent out there, you constantly worry about your children every day. When they are babies, you worry they are going to fall and get hurt. When they start school, are they going fit in, are they going to make friends, are they going to like school? They get to the age of 9 or 10 now you worry if they are fitting at school.

They become a teenager and now the real worries start with them going out with friends, on a date and more. Drugs and alcohol are everywhere and you hope you did a good job raising them and they will make the right decision. One are that we don't seem to worry about until a major situation arise before we worry about it is our teenagers suffering of Low Self Esteem.

It is very common for girls to hit their teenage years and suddenly become less outgoing and motivated, while lacking self-esteem and confidence. It is a worrying time for parents who want their daughter to feel good about themselves and their achievements.Research suggests that girls with low self-esteem have self-concepts that are confused, self-contradictory and inconsistent. This is concerning, because forming an identity is one of the most important tasks for adolescents, and it is extremely important for girls to know who they are, what they are good at, and what they believe in. Girls who form a good and strong identity have increased confidence and ability to deal with peer pressure, disappointment and change.

33% of girls age 9-12 think they are overweight and that 60% of those same girls are on a diet. 57% of girls are fasting, on a diet or are smoking in order to lose weight. What is the result? Well, 50%-70% of girls with normal weight think they are overweight. They are also many other statistics on girls and teenagers who are suffering of low self esteem using drugs and alcohol. As a parent, for me this is very alarming. These are real issues that we have to address but what can we do? What kind of help is there for overcoming low self esteem? The number one thing we can do is to make sure they know we love them and we provide them with affection. If they know we love them, then they will trust us and will be more likely to talk to us when a difficult situation in their like arise. As part of raising your children, you must instill 2 traits in your children. Make sure your children have people skills. People skills are not thought in school.

It is very important for you to work together with your daughter's teachers and mentors to help her become proud of her uniqueness, personality and strengths. If she receives mixed messages or regular discouraging criticism, it may result in confusion or an identity crisis.Secondly, support your daughter to master self-control and problem solving skills. It is critical that she learns the art of taking responsibility for the decisions she makes. She must be supported to be creative, empathic and courageous as she becomes independent and accountable for the choices she makes.

It can be helpful to replay situations with her and ask: "What might have happened if you had made a different decision?" and "If a situation like this happens again, how are you going to handle it?" Thirdly, encourage your daughter to be generous to others. This could be by being trustworthy, or by offering her time, ideas or friendship. When girls learn to be generous they start to realise that they can influence others positively. It helps them become more mindful of others and increasingly self-confident as people thank them for their generosity and kindness.When teenage girls are supported to cultivate an internal appreciation for themselves and others, they begin to feel motivated and confident. That is why a positive and strong identity, good problem solving skills and an ability to be generous promote girls' sense of gratitude and purpose.




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