Saturday 28 December 2013

How To Determine A Bad Licensed Marriage And Family Therapist

By Harriett Crosby


One of the red flags that people should pay attention to when hiring a licensed marriage and family therapist is when the latter behaves unethically. This might cover from having romantic interest to giving sexual advances. Some might also ignore the set confidentiality standards and emergency protocols for this work.

It is also a red flag if the person finds the recommendations of the said professional to be against one's beliefs. Do not force one's self to follow the recommendations given by the said professional that comes in conflict with one's beliefs and values. The person's chosen professional should be capable of working within one's own value system.

The couples will surely have lots of things they want to clarify with this professional. The red flag here is when the said professional actually dodges whatever questions the client have in mind. Just make sure to state reasonable questions. Otherwise, one will surely not be able to get satisfactory answers no matter what the professional says.

One should consider whether this professional over-share or not. There are therapists who share too much of their own life. They draw attention to themselves. This might potentially pull the couple into taking care of the professional instead. If the professional discloses something, it should be helpful to the couples.

At times, people might end up feeling worse during each session. This is fine if the client feels them once or twice. It is a different matter when the client feels bad after every session or on a regular manner, though. They should immediately change the professional handling their issues if this is the case. There is something not right with this.

The client should also change their professional if they end up feeling shamed, emotionally unsafe, or judged after each session. Just because the couples are troubled with their domestic life does not mean that their troubles should be scrutinized over. It is better to change professionals and set healthy boundaries between all the party involved.

It is surely difficult for people to deal with a lousy listener too. Even if the said professional does not really remember every detail of the session, at least they should listen to the key facts about the couple and their issues. If people have to continuously repeat what they had said in a previous session, then better look for another professional.

Try to look for a professional who does not disrupt the sessions. It is very unprofessional for the counselor to interrupt the session just because of a single phone call or text message. Unless it is an emergency, that will be inexcusable. Also, it is very unprofessional if the said counselor actually falls asleep while listening to their client's issues or talks.

At times, couples may end up not feeling right with the said professional. They should try to stress importance into trusting their gut. If their instinct tells them that their licensed marriage and family therapist is not the right professional to talk to, then it is better to look for another one to share the couple's problems to. People's instincts are usually more reliable than any other senses.




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