Wednesday, 14 August 2013

Learn How To Talk To Girls Effectively

By Dee Blackmon


Scientists have always strived to find the origin of the Universe. Not many guys care about that. Though, most of them do want to know one thing that has been lying unanswered since ages. This mind-boggling situation has remained the most critical aspect in everyone's life, and we definitely have the answer backed with an amazing technique known to the rest of the World as 'persuasive talking'. After all, it is not what you say to a girl, but how you say it matters in the end. Life is full of surprises, and we should be prepared to surprise a girl every now and then. Even the best of the lines about 'how to talk to girls' cannot get you talking with them if those are not blended well with your tone and body language.
[How To Talk To Girls]


To make connections with her, you need to listen closely to what she says. After asking about her, you need to determine whether you two share similarities with one another like the hobbies she likes to do, the place where she works, etc.After you have made connections, you could then tell her about yourself. At first, she might not be interested in knowing more about you. Yet, when you show her how you two may be connected, her level of interest might increase. She will begin to show more interest on your next statements.To do this, you need to tell her something friendly and flattering. Tell her that it was great to meet her because her company was indeed great and prevented you from getting bored.If you have no idea what topics to start talking about, you could simply look around the place and talk about what you can see. If you are both in a party organized by your friend, you could probably ask her how she is related to the host. If in a restaurant, you could ask her for suggestions on the best meal to order.

Later, you should implement some simple steps. Ask her a question. This will put her on the defensive. The answers will keep the conversation going. Keep interjecting when they answer. It keeps the whole mood healthy. And, when you are running out of words, put in the statements strategically. Like saying 'I love the ambiance here!' will expect the girl to share her views on the ambiance. How to talk to girls is simplified to a great extent with this strategy. Most often than not, there will be a reply to such statements. Remember, in the end it will not just be the talks, but the way you talk will matter. So be comfortable in whatever you do and be relaxed when you approach your next girl at a party, a park or a mall. And, remember the mantra called persuasive talking! Once you have understood these simple techniques, you have learned how to talk to girls easily and effectively.

Being different is central to successfully picking up women. So you may find it odd that I'm suggesting you can start by asking a bland question. It's not necessarily the best way to start, but it works- unless she's a real bitch, she'll respond. Once you get more confidence in talking to women, you can experiment with more novel ways of opening a conversation.You need to leave yourself somewhere to go after that first sentence. For example, if you ask her what time it is, she'll tell you- and the conversation will die there. Before you open your mouth, think about where you're going to go with the conversation.You don't want to bombard her with questions. It's a casual exchange, not a job interview. Any questions you ask should be open-ended and phrased as statements where possible, so she has to participate more in the conversation rather than giving simple yes/no answers.Awkward pauses don't just happen- you create them, and you can learn to avoid them. If she has just come to the end of a sentence, reply with another sentence, rather than saying something like "I see" and then waiting for her to talk again. Neither of you will have anything to say, and the conversation will falter.

If you anticipate an awkward silence, don't announce it and draw attention to the fact it's awkward. Instead, stop the silence before it gets out of hand by changing the topic. Something around you is bound to provide stimulus for the next topic. If she's wearing eye-catching jewelry, that's perfect material for your next object of discussion. Ask her about the story behind it. She'll be pleased that you noticed and with any luck, she will have an interesting story to tell.Some people just aren't the best conversationalists. However, this is a skill you can learn and will get better at with practice.A conversation will suffocate if you cannot listen as well as speak. If she feels like the conversation is only going one way and she can't get a word in, she'll get bored. Plenty of guys resort to verbal diarrhea when they get nervous and don't even realize it. Sometimes they are so anxious about thinking of what they should say next, that they fail to listen attentively. Try to listen to yourself objectively as you talk, to check that you're not being too overbearing.

You also want to hold back a little so that she has to do some of the work in creating conversation. If there's a pause, it doesn't matter. Let her fill the gaps sometimes. If she has to work to attract you, she will want you more.It's one thing to talk to a girl, it's quite another to flirt with her. Gentle teasing should do the trick- but that's not something you can plan. You need to bounce off what she's saying. For example, if you're at a bar talking to a girl who is clearly not a local, you could ask where she's from. She'll tell you the country she's from, and then you could exclaim, "Really?! You came all the way from (her country) to go to this bar?"- although keep in mind that this would not work on a girl whose English is so poor that she won't get the joke.

Well when you know the 3 second rule you will know the fundamental basis of your aim for becoming a real honest to goodness Pick Up Artist.I feel bound to sharing something special with you here, when you digest what I am about to say, I am positive it is going to help you with your dilemma. By dilemma I mean if you are suffering with problems of rejection. If you are I must say here and now, do not take them seriously, I will explain below.

Smiling and using plenty of eye contact as you converse will make her feel like you have a real connection. But don't get touchy with her too soon. You want to create intrigue and leave her wondering, rather than making your intentions too obvious. Light touches when the moment is right are the way to go.You also need to know when to close the conversation- before it dies. As much as you wouldn't want to, make your excuses when she seems most interested. Take that opportunity to exchange numbers, and leave her wanting you.When chatting up women, you need to come across as confident and self-assured. You want her to think that you don't care if she's not impressed. If you invest all your hopes in getting with her, she'll relish the power you've given her. She will enjoy seeing you fawn over her and will feel flattered, but she'll see it as pathetic and will not develop an interest in you.This is also why you don't want to wait too long before approaching. If you've been shyly eyeing her from across the bar all night and take hours to work up the courage to talk to her, she won't be impressed. She might think it's cute that you're nervous about speaking to her, but that won't get you into her pants.




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