Monday, 2 March 2015

Each And Every Parent Needs These Skills

By Mylen Guizon


Even if your kids are all older, now there is still time to improve your parenting skills. Each child is unique, and the needs of each child will change as the child grows up. That's why every parent needs to be able to figure out the best way to keep up with their sons and daughters and how to flexibly change their approaches as they need to. The following are some valuable parenting skills that can help you in this process.

It is important to be consistent when you discipline your kids. These is hard for lots of people to display but if you can't learn how to do it properly you can be sure it is going to be hard to get your kids to take you seriously. You should think carefully before setting up rules and consequences -don't make promises or threats that you don't intend to keep. For example, if you've taken away television privileges for your son for a week, don't give in a few days into the punishment. Otherwise, you are going to start sending messages that your word doesn't mean much and that it is safe to ignore it. Kids are going to push for your rules, it's what they do, so you need to be firm.

It's normal for parents to feel overwhelmed, to sometimes get mad and to feel frustrated once in a while. When this happens, it's time to take a break. It's best to have some resources in place so that you can have someone watch your child when you need a breather. This person can be your partner or a family member or a friend or a babysitter whom you trust. Make your list as long as possible so that if someone is busy you have someone else to call. Even if you haven't yet reached your breaking point, you need to have some free time to spend by yourself. Sometimes there isn't a lot of time to have but even a fifteen minute walk around the block can help you renew your perspective. You'll be a much better parent if you allow yourself some "you" time and don't focus on being perfect all of the time.

It's normal for parents to feel overwhelmed, to sometimes get mad and to feel frustrated once in a while. When these feelings start to set in, take a break. It is important to have some resources in place so that there is someone available to watch your kids when you need to take some time. These can be your partner, a friend or relative or even a trusted babysitter. Ideally, you should have more than one person on your list, as not everyone will always be available. Even if you haven't yet reached your breaking point, you need to have some free time to spend by yourself. Sometimes you don't need a lot of time; even a fifteen-minute walk around the block can give you a new perspective. You'll be a much better parent if you allow yourself some "you" time and don't focus on being perfect all of the time.

But you do not want to be the parent who has no knowledge of what goes on in your child's world when he or she is out of the house. Your child experiences many important things at school and other places, and as a parent you should be involved or at least aware of these. When you are a parent, there are a lot of skills that can make your life easier and help your children learn important life lessons at the same time. You have to apply these skills in a way that's appropriate to the age and personality of the child, of course. Mistakes will be made, of course, as you and your kids are merely human, but we all can learn and grow--both from successes and failures or mistakes.




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